What does "Quality Time" look like?
My first thought is always weirdly that "Quality Time" must mean QUANTITY Time -- lots of time spent together. That is quite incorrect, though. Rather, Quality Time is centered around the undivided attention of togetherness, regardless of how long or short the togetherness may be. Think of it this way -- it looks like active listening, being present and available, staying in the moment; hearing and making an effort to understand; asking questions to learn more about the other person's interests, likes, dislikes; paying attention to conversational details.
In this fractured, social-media-heavy world, Quality Time may be hard to come by. The urge to seek out input, information, distraction, is quite strong. The need to be constantly available -- to remote family members, to colleagues, to clients, to everyone -- is ingrained. It must be put aside, though, in order to achieve Quality Time.
Quality Time is one Love Language that especially speaks to me. To be heard and understood is endlessly reassuring. To feel as though what is important to me, is important to someone else especially because it is important to me, makes me feel loved. Talk, not to me, but with me.
Undivided attention: terrifying, but wonderful.
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