Only men need to be loved, women need to feel wanted.
Without delving into what men need (for about that, she has very little clue), Herself points out that there is a grain of truth to the statement - Women need to feel wanted.
What does it mean to be wanted? It's easier to explain it in relation to other things. Let us compare being needed with being wanted.
For people who enjoy being helpful to others (such as Herself), being needed is a gratifying, empowering and motivating experience. There's a great deal of satisfaction in tending to another person.
(I will note that every now and then, being needed can be exhausting or oppressive, especially when the needed person neglects her own needs in favor of those of another.)
More particularly, though, being needed is not exclusive: needs can be met by a wide variety of individuals. Almost anyone can cook a meal or do the laundry or run an errand. Being needed is not personal.
Being wanted, on the other hand, is personal. And that is what a woman needs -- to feel as though it is she, specifically, for whom another person yearns. She needs to know not that she is indispensable, but rather, that she is desired. That is what sets her apart from the many others who could satisfy someone's needs.
Desire me.
Want me.
That is a bit of what women need.
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