Free Self

For as long as you can remember, you have been a pleaser, depending on others to give you an identity.  You need not look at that only in a negative.  You wanted to give your heart to others, and you did so quickly and easily.  but now you are being asked to let go of all these self-made props .... You must stop being a pleaser and reclaim your identity as a free self.

- Henri Nouwen