Take your crying face to your room. Come out when you've composed yourself.
Sometimes, when Young Me cried, those words -- or other similar words -- were spoken by a family member who had a low tolerance for tears. "You're overreacting." I was a tender child, prone to tears, and the words sometimes stung more than the hurt that caused the crying in the first place. I still remember the tone of voice, if not the exact sentences, all these many years later.
What is it about seeing someone else upset, that is so intolerable for some people? Weeping children are sent to their rooms; adults are "given space" or deliberately left, alone, so that they can "collect themselves". It is true that sometimes, individuals may in fact need a moment to gather their thoughts and emotions. Other times, though, what they really need is a person who will stand with them when they are momentarily lost.
I will be that person, for I know what it is to be sent to my room.
The sheltering tree
The quiet in the discord
The rock in the wild --
Draw me into you,
Keep me safe, and I will then
Fly, once more, with joy
In which I get my comeuppance
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